I Kissed Dating and Goodbye by Joshua Harris

a great book not to be missed...(http://www.joshharris.com/)

He argues that dating;

1) leads to intimacy but not necessarily to commitment;
2) tends to skip the "friendship" stage of a relationship;
3) often mistakes a physical relationship for love;
4) often isolates a couple from other vital relationships;
5) in many cases, distracts young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future;
6) can cause discontentment with God's gift of singleness; and
7) creates an artificial environment for evaluating another person's character.

The word 'love' should not be misused and exploited, love seeks first the good of others, must not be measured by feelings, and is capable of being controlled responsibly. Finding the right life partner is a matter of working to become the right life partner.

This book creates another perspective for one on how to look upon a relationship from friends to know each other better and moving on to another level of commitment to become a couple and getting married. I look forward to settle down soon but timing does play a part in knowing the person and see whether we are meant for each other. To be able share the same vision, mutual feelings and to give and take, should be the essence in commiting to a relationship.

I feel that the both of us can't communicate well at times.. its fine. i have faith that things will be better as time pass..